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BRANDON MARSHALL Admits Borderline Personality Disorder

August 2nd, 2011, was a momentous day for Borderline Personality Disorder.  Someone famous finally stepped up to the plate and announced publicly that they suffered from the disorder.

The mental health profession has known of the existence of Borderline Personality Disorder for over 20 years, yet most of our country -- and the world, for that matter -- is completely ignorant of it.  What has been needed is someone (known and admired by the public) to be brave enough to talk about Borderline Personality Disorder and attempt to help other sufferers.

We've needed another Betty Ford (as in the Betty Ford Center for alcohol and drug addiction treatment).

Well, Brandon Marshall isn't Betty Ford, but he's bginning to walk in her foot steps.  The Miami Dolphins wide receiver announced at a press conference on August 2nd that he was diagnosed earlier this year with Borderline Personality Disorder.

Marshall said he made the decision to go public with the issue to "raise awareness" and that he plans to eventually lobby Congress for funding to assist research efforts.  "The only reason I'm standing here today is to use my story to help others who may suffer from what I suffer from."

Marshall said, "For so long I've beeen just trying to get help.  I've been seeking help.  I*'ve been talking with doctors since I've been in the NFL.  No one has ever helped me."

He said he has spent $60,000 on treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder.  He credits McLean Hospital in Belmont, Mass., where he spent 3 months undergoing intensive evaluation and treatment, for finally identifying his problem.

This is a good start.  Now maybe other people we know and respect will begin to come forward with their own stories.  Then maybe we can start getting a handle on this terribly painful disorder -- not only for the sufferers, but also for their lovers, family members, friends and employers.

Everyone is confused and hurting around a Borderline.

INTERVIEWS ABOUT BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

SEPTEMBER 20, 2010:   Dr. Beth Erickson (known as "Dr. Beth") of Web Talk Radio interviewed me for 30 minutes about Borderline Personality Disorder and how it affects the partners of people suffering from this disorder. She's a psychologist, so she has a good understanding of the problem.

You'll find the interview eye-opening, with straight talk about what it's like to be in a relationship with someone who's Dr. Jekyll one minute and Mr. Hyde the next.  On-again / off-again relationships will eventually make us sick. 

Click here to go directly to the interview -- then hit your back button to come back here to purchase my Breaking Free from Boomerang Love book !!  (Now available on Amazon for Kindle and pdf, plus iPhone, Blackberry and Android cell phones.)

Click on the link to the left, below the book cover, to get it. You'll be glad you did.

 

FEBRUARY 8, 2010:  The 2-hour long interview with me by Miss Kiy on the Blog Talk Radio program No Single Mama Drama was dramatically different from anything you've ever heard about Borderline Personality Disorder. 

With 2 hours of time, I was able to powerfully deliver hard-hitting, straight talk about how this disorder is created, why partners unknowingly commit to Borderlines, why Borderlines get mis-diagnosed in therapy, the treatment programs now available for Borderlines (IF they can see that it's their mis-perceptions that are causing the problems)  and much more.

Click here to listen to this possibly lifesaving interview -- then hit your back button to come back here and pick up a copy of my Breaking Free from Boomerang Love book !!  (Now available on Amazon for Kindle and pdf, plus iPhone, Blackberry and Android cell phones.)

Click on the link to the left, below the book cover, to get it.  You'll be glad you did.



 

Women Abusing Men Arrrested

Good news . . . or sort'a good news.  At least some of the authorities are beginning to notice that their local statistics of female to male domestic abuse are beginning to match the national statistics of the Centers for Disease Control -- data showing that 30 percent of domestic violence is directed toward men by women, rather than the other way around.

A recent article in the Ukiah Daily Journal in California quotes Mendocino County District Attorney Meredith Lintott saying, "We're definitely seeing an uptick."  Overall, there were 248 arrests on suspicion of inflicting corporal injury on a spouse between January 2009 to August of this year, with about 36 percent of those arrested being women.

Captain Kurt Smallcomb of the Mendocino County Sheriff's Office said, "A lot of our calls for service are mutual combat situations.  We look at who is the responsible party, who is the most aggressive."

Now if we could only get all law enforcement agencies to be so level-handed.

The other good news in this article is that the local domestic violence shelter, run by Project Sanctuary, provides services for both women and men.

Progress is slow, but it's moving forward.  What kind of domestic violence service is provided in your town by the authorities?  It is fair?  Comment below.

 

ABUSIVE WIVES HURT IRISH MEN

I just caught a recent article in the Irish Central newspaper, reporting that in 2009, a record number, over 3,600 calls, were made to Amen, a support organization in Ireland, for male victims of domestic abuse, according to the organization's annual report.

Morethan 25 percent of callers described incidents of physical abuse, while 35 percent experienced verbal abuse and 38 percent reported psychological abuse.

David Ring, Amen's chairman, stated that, "Most men react by staying silent.  Often this silence is encouraged by the fear of ridicule and the realization that it is unlikely his partner will be evicted."

What do you think about this?  Share your comments below.

WRESTLER'S WIFE ARRESTED for Domestic Violence

The blogosphere is alive with chatter about professional wrestler Ric Flair, who currently works for TNA Wrestling, and his wife having ". . . an unfortunate disagreement late [Sunday] night, which led to his wife being arrested and charged with assault," according to Flair's agent.

Jacqueline Beams is the fourth wife of Flair, the two of them having been married just three months ago.  Looks like the honeymoon's over.

This seems pretty straight foward, but I suspect more will come out later.  In November 2005, Flair was arrested following an apparent case of road rage where he allegedly grabbed a motorist by the neck.  Yikes.

And then in September of 2008, Flair was involved in an incident with his daughter (daughter?) where she was arrested for police interference.  Evidently Flair got "roughed up" and received cuts on his face and a black eye!  That must be one tough daughter.

I'm posting about this because of the problem that law enforcement has in determining who to arrrest in domestic abuse cases.  I'm reading that many agencies are now training their people to actually do investigation at the scene of the domestic violence, to literally determine who threw the first punch. 

Whoever started the fight is then the person arrested, the theory being that the person receiving that first punch (even tho perhaps less injured) was only defending themselves. 

And, of course, you guys know that I'm posting this to remind you to be very careful not to let your female partner goad you into anything physical. 

Very few police agencies are training their people to discover who threw that first punch.  If a woman picks up the phone and cries "domestic violence", you're probably going to be the one going out the door -- with an arrest for domestic violence on your record and possibly losing your job.

I'm curious to know what you think about the police doing deeper investigation at the scene.  Would that have helped you or someone you know?

Interviews About Borderline Personality Disorder

NOTE ON FEBRUARY 8, 2010:  The below interview with me was dramatically different from anything you've ever heard about Borderline Personalty Disorder.  With two hours of air time, I was  able to powerfully deliver hard-hitting, straight talk about the Borderline disorder   Click on the below link to download this possibly lifesaving interview:

 http://www.blogtalkradio.com/nosinglemamadrama.)

Just a quick note to let you know that I'll be interviewed about my book 'Boomerang Love' and specifically Borderline Personality Disorder, on the No Single Mama Drama Blog Talk Radio program this coming Sunday, January 24th, at 6:00 pm EST / 3:00 pm PST. 

Despite the name of the show, I'm told that there are a number of male listeners also. 

If you're interested, go to http://blogtalkradio.com/nosinglemamadrama for more information.

The call-in number on Sunday is (646) 721 - 9789.  As I understand it, we dial the number 1 "to say hi" (which means we're on the air to speak).  To email questions, write nsmd@yahoo.com.  The programs are recorded, so if you can't make it this Sunday, you can check back later to listen.

This blog talk radio program has been on the air for four years and has a loyal, wide audience.  There will be a one-hour talk between the two co-hosts and myself, followed by another hour of call-ins and questions emailed in. 

The main host, MIss Kiy, and I had a long conversation earlier this week.  She's very well versed about  Borderline Personality Disorder, having experienced two Borderline relationships herself.  If you go online and check out some of her previous recordings, you'll see that there's a lot of energy on her shows.

I'm excited about the opportunity to once again get the word out about this disorder and help more people understand it.

I hope you'll join me, Miss Kiy and Mrs. Rhee on Sunday.  Bring your questions and your comments.  There'll be a lot of people listening who need to hear your thoughts.